i suppose it’s time for an update!
i disappeared for a while, partly due to busy-ness, but partly due to some privacy issues that arose.
i realize that a website IS public, so is a blog, so are social-media platforms. and it takes a lot of risk to write about one’s life, however honest it is or isn’t. it’s a reality – people are going to find out about you because of how you choose to display yourself. it’s cool, i get that. it starts with me.
for some reason, it feels so much easier to write on a blog for a crowd that doesn’t exactly know you personally. you’re here for a recipe? get it, got it, done. maybe chords/lyrics? check. appreciate art? bingo. and really, it’s not so bad either writing for people i know well and who know me well, because they know that the things i put up are only bits and pieces of a whole picture; they won’t treat me according to my profile.
but then, it starts getting tricky when these interactions are with people who kind of know you…….. and use these social media platforms as venues for cyber voyeurism. i’m referring to the people that take it a step too far – knows where you are based on “check-ins” (and then meeting you there “coincidentally”), knows when you’re working, makes awkward comments on pictures from five years back, talks to other people about my posts and claiming they are references to them……. Creepy. i start avoiding these people and tend to lose respect for them quite quickly.
so this is what i have to say in this regard: be intentional about your friendships. if you want to get to know someone, say so. don’t creep around and use these faulty technological mediums to learn about someone’s likes, dislikes, favorite movies, music, tv shows, or where they are- and build a secret closet in your brain filled with information about this person’s life. Communicate. i’m pretty honest, if i say or act like i don’t appreciate that behavior, it’s because i don’t, and i avoid that company for my own safety. a lot is lost in cyberspace, a lot is found in intention.
be real, be honest, be open.
and in cyberspace, be careful.
yours truly.
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